“My parents asked me to talk to a prospective groom, an MBA from U of California,Berkeley. He had done his undergrad in CS, IITM and was earning more than 120k $ per year here in the US. But he was stammering and struggling to talk to me. 'gegege', he giggled and blushed asking me what I do during weekends. Isn't the minimum criterion that the person I marry be a male?” - Vibha
First of all not all those pursuing phds are geeks. Designing a complicated optical system, does not mean I can not be a good company for a long drive. Nor does not it mean that I can not appreciate the glow in a girl's face during a full moon night. But for most of us, it is not simple as it seems. Yes, it is not that easy to impress that 'special' girl.
Having studied in an institution were the fairer sex are barred to enter due to the certain obvious reasons, interaction with them is a almost nil. And when you step out of such an institution and meet and talk to a girl for the first time in your life, 4 on 5 chances you will believe she is an angel, the girl of your dreams and the very purpose of life. It is advisable not to get close to any girl for the next 6 months(for some people even 2 years wont hurt)
“Since I met you two days ago, I have always been thinking about you. I strongly feel there is something between us”, would receive a totally damaging reply “Well, even your friend told me the same yesterday. So sweet of you guys!”. With each of these girls having had at least 22 guys trying to flirt and hit on them before you, you need to be better than all those if you really want to make a difference.
Being the 23rd guy trying to impress a girl, is not easy. There is no guarantee that your pick up line was not used before. There is no guarantee that your gift was not bought by someone else before. There is no guarantee that a person similar to you has not pissed her off before. You have no idea how many times she has been to this same restaurant before. And when she seeks help from you, you have no clue as to what others advised her to do.(It is safer never to advise. Just say everything will be fine :P) “You are very special compared to all the guys I have known so far” needs a lot of hard work and more importantly shrewdness and patience.
There is no skill on this planet earth which can not be learnt and mastered. And fortunately this world is full of dumb guys who lack common sense in tackling girls. There are equally dumb girls too. Being the 23rd guy in a girls life is challenging but at the same time very much within the scope of any sane and good individual.
